The Ugly Side of Pretty...

http://msn.match.com/msn/article.aspx?articleid=6751&lid=419

I urge everyone to read the article linked above.

Although I struggle with my own self-esteem and body image demons...I know that I am perceived to be a good-looking girl. A hot chick. Beautiful. To quote Izzie Stevens from Grey's Anatomy:

"I'm a pretty girl. I'm not being arrogant, it's just, it's just kind of a fact. I get it. And not from a 'certain angle' kind of way, but in an obvious way. It's the blonde thing and the big boobs thing...It's how men see me. I'm not a smart girl or an interesting girl. I'm a pretty girl."

Adding some of my own...here's my version of "Hot Girl Myths: The Ugly Side of Pretty" :

Beautiful women get all the good guys.
Not true. Normal guys do not approach us - they are too shy. We get stuck with the creeps, players and cocky frat boys whose sex number is higher than their IQ. We can never know if they are interested in us because of our intellect, wit, charisma...or just because we closely resemble their wet dream fantasy.

Beautiful women don't get dumped.
Wow...entirely not true. I've had guys leave me for other women (mainly younger, sluttier versions of me), or because I didn't put out soon enough...or because I did put out and now they are bored/finished with me. I've also been dumped because a man could not handle the jealousy of other guys looking at me. Basically, if you name it, I've been dumped because of it.

Beautiful women don't have to work as hard.
If anything, we have to work twice as hard to get people to respect us. "Blonde hair and big boobs? Big whoop...you're a cookie cutter bimbo." Instead of a blank slate first impression, we start off with a deficit...a negative assumption that we're dumb. It's like starting a race an extra 20 feet back...we have to run faster and harder just to catch up with everyone else.

Beautiful women make friends easily.
Not true. Women are brutal. We are our own worst enemies. If a woman is beautiful, we have to compensate for our own insecurity and envy by scrutinizing every curve, every feature of her. Her left calve is bigger than her right. She overplucks her brows. I heard she's a huge slut. We automatically assume beautiful girls are stuck up, bitchy, shallow, fake. Pretty girls cannot be trusted.

To quote Ani Difranco "God help an ugly girl, though a pretty girl is also for doom...for everyone harbors a secret hatred...for the prettiest girl in the room."

I'm going to try to blog more...promise. For my three or four fans out there...thank you for reading :) lol.